How to be at Peace to Have Greater Control
Are you feeling out of control right now—perhaps as though out of control is piled upon out of control? I’ve been debating on whether to write about COVID-19 for you or not. It’s not about midlife...
View ArticleHow to Mindfully Restore Trust in Yourself
Let’s talk about trust. I know that you have a lot of questions and worries surrounding not only whether your MLCer will ever be trustworthy, but also whether you will be able to trust again. Your...
View ArticleDo You Want to be Free From Fear?
As a Left Behind Spouse dealing with an MLCer, you deal with rejection and often infidelity; feeling insecure is normal! The double bind is that it’s not an attractive force. What can you do to work...
View ArticleWhy Your Fear-Based Behaviors are Holding You Back
Excessive Deference/Submissiveness Your desperation and fear are so great that you’ll do anything to get your spouse back—rather than doing what it takes. You’ll give up your own hopes and dreams in...
View ArticleWhat Does Your Body Language Say About Your Fear?
This is the third post in a series about how fear affects you, your Stand, your Mirror Work, your progress… you get it. I wanted to briefly review why this is important. Acknowledging a problem is...
View ArticleSpeaking Your Spouse’s Love Language is an Organic Way to Open Communication...
What, the 5 Love Languages? Does it matter, my spouse is gone? The 5 Love Languages has become a classic and the idea of love languages has become so popular that even if you haven’t read the book, you...
View ArticleDitch your Inner Victim; Become a Survivor and Learn to Thrive
Preventing Victim-Mode How do you deal with pushing away the feelings of resentment and not going into victim mode? Victim-mode (Victim mentality) When you identify yourself as being controlled by past...
View ArticleStanding for You is About Acceptance of You
In a Facebook Live from a few weeks ago I answered your questions about Standing. One of the things I didn’t go into was Standing for You and how it can help you not only accept the process of a...
View ArticleGet Off the Doormat and Risk Now for Later
Doormats give Up their Power to Manipulation and Control Chuck wanted me on the doormat—not that he understood the situation that way. Recall in the previous post that he said he was already thinking...
View ArticleHow Can You Determine the Contact Type of Your MLCer?
What are the differences between the Contact Types and what does it mean to be a certain type? I’ve received a couple of questions about this and would like to go in depth a little more to help...
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