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No Contact: More About Contact Limitations
Ask a Question I am struggling with the limited/non-communication rule. How do you set such boundaries when you live with your MLC? How can No Contact work when you see him every day at home? Where did...
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Exposure: Should You Expose the Affair?
This entry is part 1 of 2 in the series Exposing the Affair: They Kiss and You TellShould you expose your MLCer’s affair? For many of you this is moot point because your MLCer is flaunting the affair...
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Exposure: When and How to Expose the Affair
This entry is part 2 of 2 in the series Exposing the Affair: They Kiss and You TellExpose early, but not until you are certain or have sufficient evidence. Once you are certain, do not delay in...
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Too Young for a Midlife Crisis?
Ask a Question Is it possible to experience a midlife crisis in late 20s? I am responding to this question because it seems there has been a recent influx of 20-somethings coming to the forum—so many...
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I Love You But I’m Not In-Love With You
I Love You But I’m Not In-Love With You I’ve decided to write on this not because I think you are all wondering what it means, but because many newbies may need to find us and they will search I Love...
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Walk-Away Wife Versus Midlife Crisis
Ask a Question I‘m curious on your thoughts on Midlife Crisis vs Walk-Away Wife – do you think these are two separate things and if so how to categorize one vs the other. Yes, they are separate, but...
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Authentic Self or Midlife Crisis?
Ask a Question James Hollis and Jungian psychology advocates the individual at midlife find their authentic self and recover the life you are meant to be living. Indeed, by staying with your family and...
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Tolerance: Coexisting with Respect and Peace
Learning Tolerance as We Grow I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about this post while writing it and some time sitting on it while not writing it. It is normal as a community grows that changes upset...
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Greener Grass and More Questions
Ask a Question – Quick Answers I receive a lot of questions that have pretty quick answers and I have not known what to do with them. Well DUH, I finally realized I can just put several into a single...
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Detachment Versus Distancing
Ask a Question I’m conflicted about distancing myself from my MLCer. My MLCer already felt I neglected him; I don’t want to do more of the same. This is a common fear regarding detachment and one I...
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What Makes an Affair Down?
I don’t consider it an Affair Down; she’s a teacher, she’s athletic, she has her own house, she’s full of energy and that leaves me feeling worthless. Here are my original Affair Down articles. The...
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Is My Situation an Exception to Standing? – And Other Questions
Ask a Question – Quick Answers 1. My MLCer… married the affair partner. is a narcissist. is having a baby with the alienator. Pick whatever it is about your situation that makes it seem (or you...
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Code of Self-Respect
MLC or not where is my/your self-respect? I don’t see any self-respect in… Standing amidst cake-eating. Standing amidst divorce proceedings. Standing amidst infidelity. Standing amidst Monster-Abuse....
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Financial Protection While Standing
Divorce is an unfortunate reality of MLC marriage. Most of you who come to this site come here because you do not want a divorce and it is my goal to help Standers. But I don’t want to lead you on;...
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Change Comes From Growth
Change: Community and You Change simply happens New LBSs who do their Mirror-Work grow and change, becoming experienced and detached LBSs with different goals and needs than they had at the beginning....
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Detachment Versus Distancing
Ask a Question I’m conflicted about distancing myself from my MLCer. My MLCer already felt I neglected him; I don’t want to do more of the same. This is a common fear regarding detachment and one I...
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What Makes an Affair Down?
I don’t consider it an Affair Down; she’s a teacher, she’s athletic, she has her own house, she’s full of energy and that leaves me feeling worthless. Here are my original Affair Down articles. The...
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Is My Situation an Exception to Standing? – And Other Questions
Ask a Question – Quick Answers 1. My MLCer… married the affair partner. is a narcissist. is having a baby with the alienator. Pick whatever it is about your situation that makes it seem (or you...
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Code of Self-Respect
MLC or not where is my/your self-respect? I don’t see any self-respect in… Standing amidst cake-eating. Standing amidst divorce proceedings. Standing amidst infidelity. Standing amidst Monster-Abuse....
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Financial Protection While Standing
Divorce is an unfortunate reality of MLC marriage. Most of you who come to this site come here because you do not want a divorce and it is my goal to help Standers. But I don’t want to lead you on;...
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